This is a crazy time — almost surreal in some ways. Between the impact of the pandemic, and the civil protests throughout the world, many of us are struggling. Struggling to understand. To know. To make sense of it. To grasp it all. And to figure it all out. And, it’s hard. Our emotions are […]

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Here’s What I Know: It’s okay to be confused. It’s okay to feel unprepared. And uncomfortable. Perhaps afraid. Maybe even second-guessing yourself. But not okay to feel unworthy. Undesirable. Undeserving. Unloved. And, underestimated. Never let anyone make you feel “Un-Anything.” Because you are more than that. And you deserve more than that. If they do, […]

Here’s What I Know: So look… Stop falling for the bullsh**. Stop accepting the bullsh**. You are worth so much more than that. So stop accepting it. Start trusting and believing that you own the power of change. And start to change it. Change how you think first. So you can change how you behave […]

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As a lil’ girl growing up in Brooklyn during the ’70s, we used to play a lot of “street” games. There weren’t many parks near my block so we would just play as hard as we could on the sidewalks and in the street when no cars were passing by. This was our way of […]

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Just sharing some thoughts that I’ve been having over the past few days about having a threesome! Y’all lookin’ at this post right now like…. 🙂 🙂 Let’s Have a Threesome! Want to do a threesome? Yup! A threesome with Me, Myself, and I. Let’s do it! Let’s focus on discovering who we really are […]

Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Sometimes when things hurt really bad we just want it to stop. So we do whatever we can to make the pain go away. We try to move in the opposite direction. Far away. But that doesn’t always work. We try to “talk” the hurt away. But that doesn’t help either. And sometimes we add […]

I’m Having a Threesome! Want to do a threesome? Yup! A threesome with Me, Myself and I. Let’s do it! Let’s focus on discovering who we really are and what we really need to be happy. Let’s run our fingers through the texture of our lives to determine if it’s the right “feel.” Let’s our […]

Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

Trust the Process… Sometimes life sucks and things don’t go as planned. But that’s a part of the process. Sometimes you work soooo hard but you never feel like you are moving forward at all. But that’s a part of the process. And there are nights when you are laying in your bed feeling at […]

Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

As we begin the New Year so many of us create resolutions of “change.” We want to change our lives, our goals, our dreams and our relationships with others. But in making those changes, it first requires us to make changes within ourselves, and that can be so hard because it requires a higher level […]

“Simple doesn’t mean easy, but if you make it simple it can be easier…” As I’ve matured and experienced life in its most raw form, I’ve recognized that the above quote is so very true.  I’ve lived the life that was full of drama, complexities and intricate moving bells and whistles.  All of it was […]

Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

This past weekend, millions of girlfriends flocked to the movie theaters to see the blockbuster film “Girls Trip.”  It was a much-anticipated movie that chronicled the lives of four black women who had been friends for years and in many ways, it was a symbolization of another element of “Black Girl Magic.”  We are mystical […]

Created by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

You are probably asking “What does this have to do with believing in yourself and your dreams?”  Well, just as we use contraceptive methods to stop an unplanned pregnancy we need to create methods that stop us from birthing negativity in our lives and to control unhealthy thoughts and behavior. This is the “B” of […]

Stop apologizing and start fighting for what you want. Stop making excuses for why you don’t have what you think you should have, or you are doing what you dreamed of doing… Stop making excuses and start making adjustments. You know that it’s like “mind over matter…” As much as you mind will be as […]