Stop Apologizing and Start Fighting!



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MEET dr. adair


February 10, 2017

Stop apologizing and start fighting for what you want.

Stop making excuses for why you don’t have what you think you should have, or you are doing what you dreamed of doing…

Stop making excuses and start making adjustments.

You know that it’s like “mind over matter…”

As much as you mind will be as much as it matters.

If you feel it, if you want it, and if you know it, then fight for it.

I think we spend too much time hoping and praying for the things we want in life and we are not putting in the FIGHT to get what we want.

Now I’m not talking about what we NEED because I think that many of us hustle and scramble to ensure that many of our needs are met…At least that’s what grown folks do.

But I am talking about those things that we want…

Really bad.

If you want him, do the work to get him.

If you want her, put the work in to get her.

If you want to shift the direction your relationship is headed in, fight to navigate the right route.

Don’t just let it drift further away or float off course.

If we want to heal hurt, be honest and deal with the hurt. Don’t put band-aids on gunshot wounds and expect healing to happen. Do the surgery to remove the infection, so the hurt doesn’t flow throughout the body like a virus running through the bloodstream.

If you want to start a new business, or you have a dream you want to become your new reality, then create your plan of action to get it done.

Don’t just “let” things happen…

Make them happen.

If you want more love in your life, allow yourself to be loved and fight for the loves you already have.

If you want to be forgiven, then forgive yourself first and then prove that you are worthy of forgiveness by others.

If you want to change some things about yourself that you just don’t want to live with, then begin to be truthful with yourself so you can walk in your purpose, and follow along the path that has already been chosen for you.

Face your fears.

Own your truth about who you really are.

And stop lying to yourself.

You own the Power of Change…

So change it.

For some of us, it is much easier to give up and give in without the fight.

And then we apologize that we missed the moment or claim we never saw it coming.

But that’s some BS cuz you can feel when you really want something.

But you just get scared or lazy when it’s time to do something about it.

That’s why so many New Year’s Resolutions are already broken…And it’s just February.

And then you think if you just apologize that will make everything alright again.


Remember the old quote “Action speaks louder than words?”

Well, start doing.  Start fighting and then you will begin to get what you want.

The great poet, Langston Hughes wrote: “What Happens to a Dream Deferred?”

And my response has consistently been “Nothing. Just don’t let it happen.”

You see, I know it’s easier to just talk about the dreams and things we want but will it give us happiness to just talk about it?

Will it contribute to a positive piece of mind?

I think not.

Instead, we need to become those foot soldiers emerging from the trenches of hard work, discipline, and pain to get what we want.

And we don’t need to apologize for it.

I don’t know about you but if I want something bad enough I’m willing to fight for it as though it was the air I need to breathe and the food I need to eat.

And when I fight, it’s going to be a different fight for each unique thing that I want.

You see, many folks use the same tools to fight for everything.

You have to change how you fight for what the different things you want.

You have to change the way you think before you can change the way you behave.

The fight for Love will be different than the fight for Forgiveness.

And the fight for your Dream will be different than the fight for Happiness.

Because you have to ask different questions of yourself to create a realistic action plan to move towards change.

And stop apologizing for it.

Just fight for it.

Until you want to fight for it as bad as you want it, it just ain’t gon’ happen.

You “get out” what you “put in.”

And when you put in, you pull out what you’ve been working for and what you want…

So stop being sorry about what you “coulda, woulda, shoulda done” and begin to fight for what you want now.

And what you deserve.

And stop apologizing for it.

I am.

I can.

I will.

I do.

And it’s all because I fought for it.

Lesson:  Just Do It.