How do you know if you are an effective Leader?



Best-selling author, publisher, motivational speaker and educator.

MEET dr. adair


July 13, 2015


Being a Leader is not just what I do. It’s a part of who I am.

You see, I believe that Leadership comes from within—it comes from living in your purpose, manifesting your destiny and understanding that resiliency is the foundation of your determination. It is the recognition that you must first “work a dream to live a dream.” This requires recognizing who you are, the values you embrace and knowing that “what’s for you is for you.”

But is this easy? Of course not! But knowing essential components of Resiliency is a start. Being resilient demands that you are a chameleon of sorts —prepared to morph into life roles that require flexibility, strength and tenacity. Searching within the crevices of your heart and soul discover untouchable feelings and sensations that push you to continue trying even when you think you should “give up.” It’s that push, that tug, that makes you feel like you can still climb that mountain with bare feet and reminds you that you can Push through the Pain, and you can Get Over It! That’s Resiliency.

You see, knowing that you still have the fight left in you is an example of strength itself—Knowing what inspires you to dress in that warrior costume and knowing the things that propel you towards greatness serve as the foundation for your leadership. You become that foot soldier emerging from the trenches to pull yourself up by your bootstraps so you can continue to lead your life effectively. You do it because you have to. You do it because you need to. You do it because you want to. You do it because you are a Leader. And you do it because you are Resilient.

Being resilient also means that you have created personal artillery to combat negativity in your life. It suggests that you have built an arsenal to protect your heart and soul from anything that seeks to threaten the positivity of your existence. It requires that you release all negative toxins in your life and knowing that your Resiliency is your weapon against self-destruction and the key defense in your struggle for significance.

I think that knowing how to effectively lead your life despite any odds requires that you embrace the main tenets of the “Resiliency Formula.” This includes strategies that focus on Overcoming Odds, Controlling Anger, Creating Healthy Balances, Forgiveness Techniques, Building Dreams and Reaching Destiny Points. Knowing this becomes a pivotal motivator that will allow you to conquer any trials and tribulations in your life fearlessly– despite feelings of confusion, doubt, and disillusionment.

You see, I learned long ago that there really are six ways of knowing in life– tradition, expert opinion, logic, research, personal experience and intuition. Although the former are excellent knowledge resources, it is the latter that my resiliency is built upon and sustained. My intuition in my life served as the bootstrap that allowed me to pull myself up out of the pits of sadness, despair, anxiety, frustration, hopelessness and all things negative because it gave me the power to believe in my own thoughts and feelings. It is the cornerstone of my existence and the foundation of my Leadership.

Yes, I truly believe that we all have moments when we don’t feel that we are resilient, as “strong” as we want to be, and question the true purpose of our lives. And we already know that we are “so much” but we are striving to be “so much more” but we are unsure how to get there. We know that dreams don’t come with a warranty or guarantee, but we know that being Resilient is at the core of our dreams and allows us to remain effective Leaders. We use it to “bounce back” after “hitting rock bottom” and to climb mountains while “stuck in valleys.” Finding the center of our resiliency and using that as the center of our leadership capabilities will ensure that we continue to have all strength needed to effective lead others.

In my life, I’ve used my leadership skills to make a positive difference in the lives of others as well…The key is being an effective leader of my own life first. Knowing what serves as the nourishment for my resiliency is mandatory, and I know that the shield it leans on is Faith. I know that my Faith is stronger than my Pain so it can withstand the weight of any hardships that I may experience. I also know that I cannot make “excuses” for my choices in life and I need to make “adjustments” to ensure that my Resiliency remains intact. Is this easy?  No.  Is it  worthy? Yes.  But knowing this helps me to understand what how to lead my life effectively before I can begin to lead the lives of others.  This is what I think makes me an effective Leader.

So what about you?

With Love,

Dr. Adair

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